“I’ve told you these things for a purpose: that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature. This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends. You are my friends when you do the things I command you.” -John 13:13-15 [MSG]

On Memorial Day, it’s important to remember we are honoring our fallen. For many, this day is not a happy occasion but a solemn one. Here is some guidance on the appropriate messages to convey: Rather than “Happy Memorial Day,” say  “Have a meaningful Memorial Day.”

It’s also not appropriate to thank a service member for their service on this day, as it is a day for remembering and honoring those who made the ultimate sacrifice. Take a moment to recognize and remember. You can even say, “Today and always, I’m remembering [name].” 

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter the words, but to live by them.” -John F. Kennedy